Well, folks. It is official and remember, you heard it here first.
We are living in an electronic age. Shocking, right?
Smartphones, computers, tablets, and ebooks are ubiquitous. For those of you who don’t have a dictionary app on your phone, ubiquitous is a fancy-schmancy word for everywhere.
The Internet is at our fingertips and boy, do we use it. It has changed the way we go about our daily lives. We use the Internet to make airline and dinner reservations, play games, pay bills, monitor the temperature of our house, find a life-partner or even a date, look at our lab results, correspond with friends, family, and foes, and waste countless hours watching cute puppy videos on YouTube. Guilty as charged, Your Honor.
The way we communicate with others is drastically different than it was just a few years ago. We “talk” to our friends via FaceBook, Instagram, Snapchat, LinkedIn, Twitter, blog posts, email, and texting. Sure, we still pick up the phone, but now it is to get on the Internet in order to avoid having an actual conversation with an actual person.
They (I have no idea who the ‘they’ are) say we are entering the Brick and Mortar Store Ice Age. Why go to the mall when you can shop and compare prices online without having to leave the comfort of your La-Z-Boy lounger? Your purchase arrives on your doorstep practically as soon as you log-off and shipping was probably free.
I fly a great deal and I am still astonished to see that most people in the airport and on the airplane are staring at an electronic device. When I see someone reading a real book, I want to welcome them to the 21st century.
I am not saying that all of the above is a bad thing. This electronic age has helped propel rapid technological breakthroughs, reunited family members and old friends, and with the help of WebMD, we can now all diagnose our elbow cancer without the aid of a medical professional.
But not all of it is a great thing either. With this rather faceless way to communicate, bullies can become brazen, inappropriate comments or photos can be forwarded, and terrorists can learn how to make a bomb with a few quick keystrokes. I’m sure all of you are thinking, “Yeah, and Robin can write another boring blog post.”
I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But read on to find out something you may not know.
An article in today’s paper was about a possible unexpected outcome of the invention of the Internet. But when you really think about it, it isn’t that surprising.
The journal Archives of Sexual Behavior published a study that showed that young millennials (those born in the early 1990s) are half as sexually active in their 20s than previous generations. Yes, that means they are more sexually inactive.
Various experts weighed in on the possible causes of this dramatic decline in romantic sex and just plain hook-ups. Let’s look at a few . . .
- Women are feeling more empowered to say, “Hands off, buddy,” from all of the high-profile sexual harassment stories in the news and discussions in school and at home.
- Because people are primarily communicating with electronics, they have trouble forming person-to-person romantic connections.
- Unrealistic expectations of body image cause women to shy away from sexual experiences.
- They were the first to grow up in the era of smartphones and are leery of getting close to someone in case they become cyberbullied and sexually harassed via any number of electronic outlets.
- Drunken college hook-ups are no longer viewed as a scandalous way to rebel. It is merely a tawdry way to lose your reputation and get an STD.
- They have been pressured by helicopter-moms to excel in school and then in their careers so are unfamiliar with having the downtime it takes to get to really know someone and fall in love, or fall in bed.
- When they are alone with someone, both parties are usually looking at their smartphone or computer screen.
- Porn is quicker and accessible.
- There is an increase in the use of antidepressants, which can deaden emotions and curtail sex drive.
- Their parents are from the generation of free-love and high divorce rates. Staying away from romantic relationships is safer.
I have to say that all of that makes perfect sense, but I suspect that the biggest thing causing the drop in physical sex is the Internet and the way kids now communicate. Staring into a boy’s eyes on his FaceBook page isn’t nearly as romantic as staring into the depth of his soul on the backseat of his parents’ car.
On a semi-related side note, there is a sign in my neighborhood advertising “Social Skills Classes for High Schoolers.” That is the problem with social media . . . ironically, it is killing real social skills.
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roughwighting said:
Like you, I’m not sure whether to celebrate or bemoan the advances of the electronic age. I watch my young grandkids (4-8) and realize that their brains are wired differently than mine were at that age, and even differently than my kids. I think we’re changing genetically because of this technology…REALLY! As far as the sex? Why do you need sex to create more people in this world? We’ll have robots and computers to keep the world running… (don’t worry, I’m being facetious…I think). 🙂
robincoyle said:
Hey, Pam! I’ve been meaning to write you. I finished your two books while on vacation! Excellent! I really enjoyed the stories and your writing. Well done you! I’d love to talk to you about how you got published. Any other books in the works?
The article suggested, tongue-in-cheek of course, that someone will develop an app for sex. Heck, one probably already exists. Ew.
roughwighting said:
Well, YAY!!! So glad you read them. Even happier that you enjoyed them! If you have any inclination, I’d love it if you’d write a (short) review on my Amazon page for THE RIGHT WRONG MAN and TWIN DESIRES. Positive reviews are what we Indie authors live on. I’m working on the sequel for THE RIGHT WRONG MAN.
I had an agent for TWIN DESIRES (the first book I wrote, with my co-author Ashley) but as I studied more about self-publishing I decided that’s the way to go. It’s an inordinate amount of work, and I’ve spent hundreds of hours studying about it, then finding the best way to have my books edited, to get beta readers and a critique group. Then I found a template for the formatting for Create Space and for e-books. A huge amount of work, but boy, does it feel worthwhile when the book is in your hand (and in your Kindle).
robincoyle said:
Oh gosh! I should have thought to leave review on Amazon and I will certainly do so
I need to get off my arse and self-publish. I was all set to do so and then a dear blogging friend (published children’s author) vehemently said I should try to get an agent. That whole email exchange sent me into inertia. He was very kind and flattering, but damn, I have been mired in indecision ever since! Your self-publishing success inspires me!
roughwighting said:
I have several writing friends (who have also been in my critique group for years) who are still dithering over ‘finding an agent’ and sending e-mails and waiting waiting. And I’ve read their books – they’re GOOD. In the meantime, I’ve put my “ass in gear” and published two books with more on the way. I say GO FOR IT, Robin!
philosophermouseofthehedge said:
Love that last line! (You’ve heard about that bar that is blocking cell signals to make people talk? – a start. I’m linking to it in next post.)
Yep, get that cute puppy a new dog toy! We all pack on pounds when gazing at cat videos on that mesmerizing screen…and then avoid others because of the incrasing bulges which leave more time for screen entertainment which leave more time for …oh, look chocolate!
robincoyle said:
A bar blocks cell signals so people talk to each other?! That is so funny. We are at the point where we have to force people to have a real conversation? Crazy. I’ll watch for the link in your next post.
philosophermouseofthehedge said:
Tomorrow – thought it was funny we were hitting the same topic…it must be a sign HA HA (Do prophets get paid?)
robincoyle said:
I’m sure the WordPress prophets get paid.
philosophermouseofthehedge said:
But not us? Darn…might as well forget the fortune teller outfit..always liked that Gypsy jewelry
robincoyle said:
You didn’t get your check in the mail? I did, and bought tons of gypsy jewelry.